Going through a burnout, you might feel lost. You might feel that you are no longer who you thought you were. Like you have lost yourself.
The things you excelled at are much harder or almost impossible now.
You respond different to the world around you and everything that once mattered to you seems to be forgotten in the battle you fought.
The battle that ended in a burnout.
Rediscovering and reinventing yourself after a burnout, however, is one of the most useful things you can do in your life!
Recovering from a burnout should implicate a lot more than just going back work.
If your goal is to get back to work and forget about the rest, chances are, you’ll end up burned out again.
You didn’t discover why you ended up burned out in the first place and that information is crucial if you want to prevent another burnout from happening to you.
Reinventing yourself should be the most important part of your recovery from your burnout.
Going through the following 5 steps will help you discover why you burned out, and how you can avoid a new burnout.
1. Establish a timeline of your career
To establish a timeline of your career, you start with the choices you made at school.
What directions did you choose in high school and why did you go there?
Did you go to college or university and what choices did you make there?
Was it all a big coincidence?
Did you walk along with your friends without thinking for yourself?
Or, did you choose your own path?
What was your first internship or job?
Did you love it?
Or, did you hate it and went there because you had no other options?
How did you end up with your current employer?
Did you apply for the job you always dreamt about and did you get it?
Or, were you lucky to get a job at all?
Did you grow within the company of your current employer? What positions did you have that lead to your current position?
Write down your entire career and have a good look at the path behind you.
Do you now have a clear vision of your career?
Great! Now it’s time to take it to the next level.
2. Discover what decisions lead you to where you are today
Take your career overview and for every change of direction you made, ask yourself why you changed directions.
What choices did you make at that specific moment?
Were they even choices? Or, were you forced to change directions?
Did this new and better position come to you by accident?
Or, did it require years of planning and a lot of hard work to finally get the job you wanted?
Did you think about accepting this position or did you believe refusing it was not an option?
Now, out of all these changes of direction, extract the ones that are the most important.
The decisions that lead to the changes that got you where you are today.
What motivated you to make the choices you made? Were they choices at all?
Don’t draw any conclusions just now. We’ll get to that later.
You’ve now got a clear overview of how and why you got where you are today.
Time to take it to the next level.
3. Rediscovering yourself: back to base
What were you aiming for at the beginning of your career?
What were your ambitions?
What job did you hope for?
An office job or a factory job?
What job did you dream of as a child?
What job would you choose if you could have any job in the world?
What is it that defines these jobs?
Do they have something in common? Like working with your hands, people or computers? Are they caregivers jobs or office jobs?
What is it in any dream job of yours that makes it your dream job?
Most people stop dreaming when they grow out of childhood. The rest of their lives is about careers, making money and things that happen along the way.
How far did you get sidetracked from your dreams?
4. What is really important to you?
Now it’s time to start wondering what is really important to you. To rediscover yourself you must ask this question to yourself.
Are the characteristics of your dream job still the most important to you?
Or did you set other priorities during your life?
These important things define the characteristics of your ideal job.
Of course, there are other job-related things that are important to you. Like working hours if you have kids or you need a certain amount of money due to your mortgage.
Are you free to move or are you tied to a specific region? For instance by your needy parents?
Make a list of everything job related that matters to you. When you’re done it’s time to compare.
5. Did you end up where you wanted to be?
That is the big question.
Did you end up where you wanted to be or did you get sidetracked along the way?
A burnout happens for a reason.
Chances are that somewhere in your past, you took a decision that didn’t fit you.
You may have accepted a job that was a little over your head. Maybe it wasn’t at first but your domestic situation could have changed for instance. Like you had kids or your parents became needy.
Maybe the job changed and became more demanding. Maybe you got a different manager and the two of you didn’t get along.
It could have been anything.
The change that made you tiptoeing is the change that led to your burnout.
So, did you get where you wanted to go?
The answer is probably no.
Realizing that sucks, right?
It really sucks to realize that you’ve lived your life for the past years and got sidetracked without you realizing it.
Does this mean you’re life is ruined?
It may look like it but I can assure you it isn’t.
There’s still time to change lose 10 pounds fast.
Even when you’re retired there’s still time to change and start doing the things you love.
If you’ve answered all the questions in this blog, you now know how you got where you are. You also know what it is you want to spend your time at.
The things that really matter to you.
That leads us to the following question: Is it time for a change?
The answer is probably yes.
Small changes can be made quickly and may help you recover from your burnout sooner.
Big changes will take more time and may even mean you’ll have to recover from your burnout before the change can be made.
The situation you’re in right now may seem miserable and endless.
A burnout is only temporary.
You now know where you’re heading.
Everything between you and your destiny is only temporary. You don’t have to stay at the job you hate forever. As soon as you have recovered from your burnout it’s time to move on.
Are you ready for change?
You might feel you’re not quite ready for a change. Maybe the direction you want to go is not quite clear enough. Maybe your recovery from your burnout is not going forward.
I can help you if you’re not ready.